Why do some people recover quickly from adversity, while others find it difficult? Resiliency is the key. Here are some tips to develop resiliency.
1. Don’t see the crisis as undefeatable problems
You can’t alter the possibility of highly stressful events occurring, but you can change how you interpret, react, and accept them. Look beyond the present to how future situations maybe a little better, knowing that nothing ever stays the same.
2. Accept change as part of life
Accepting things you cannot change can help you focus on those you can change.
3. Set realistic goals
Take actions regularly, small steps that enable you to move toward your goals. Change your focus to those tasks that you CAN accomplish rather than on the tasks that seem daunting and unachievable.
4. Find opportunities for self-discovery
We are constantly learning something about ourselves and grow as individuals, even as we struggle to cope with the loss that we have faced. Use tough times for working on strengthening relationships, having an increased sense of self-worth and strength, and a keen appreciation of life even if you feel helpless inside.
5. Be decisive
Learn to face adverse situations, rather than avoiding problems and stressors completely.
6. Nurture a positive view of yourself
Learning to start believing in your own ability to deal with problems and trusting your gut instinct helps you build resilience.
7. Keep things in perspective
Even when facing difficult situations try and remind yourself to look at the bigger picture, keeping in mind a long-term perspective. Try not to blow the event out of proportion.
8. Maintain a hopeful outlook
Develop an optimistic attitude, good things will happen in your life. Make an effort to visualize the positives, rather than worrying about what you fear. There is always a ray of hope.
9. Take care of yourself
Pay heed to your own needs and feelings. Start doing those activities that you enjoy and find relaxing. Exercise regularly. Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body prepared to deal with situations that require resilience.
10. Make connections
A good relationship with family members, friends, and colleagues is important. Learn that accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you, strengthens resilience.
Waiting for someone to come and change your life could lead to stagnation. Start taking actions, no matter how small they may seem to better your life every day. Say your affirmations every morning, and start the day on a positive note. ‘Being resilient’ doesn’t mean nothing bad will ever happen to you. It means when something bad happens, you know how to bounce back.